Whether with Thomas or the handful of other guys and ex-boyfriends who constitute the entirety of my gay circle, it feels tiresome to define a reality you've never considered particularly special. As last Monday's Hillary Clinton New Hampshire meltdown reminded us, it's repugnant to manipulate perceived gender/sexuality differences for expediency's sake. The only time it works: surrounded by a bunch of straight men, as I usually am, it's purifying to unleash one movement of pure faggotry. But call it "faggotry" without my permission and I'll punch your jaw.

Thank you, Rich, for putting it so succinctly: "The more uniform we are, the easier we are to dehumanize, the easier we are to hate."